They say perception is reality. I suppose that cover’s it, for the most part. But, why do you think there are such widely diverse and contrary understandings of the exact same set of facts? Frequently in conversation, I’m baffled to hear recounted something I’d said, the substance of which was unrecognizable to my memory. I’ve learned most people don’t truly hear what you say, but rather remember how they FELT about what you said. I should include myself as having made that mistake, as well. Do you ever get the message that when using words such as patriotism, liberal, conservative, faith, that people hold private definitions which often make honestly communicating impossible?
Chronic concern for the feeling’s of others often leads to deceitful negotiation of differences. Who can speak honestly if the emotional reaction of others are at all times stifling, contorting, and preventing a frank, candid discussion? Political correctness is a weapon of denial, deceit and manipulation. Nothing more, nothing less.
I’m not saying blurt out your perception of the truth, feeling’s and consequences be damned. Adult’s learn to make the view’s known without being a clod or unneccessarily harsh. After all, not everyone agrees on just what patriotism is…
I am saying that if you, at first, measure your responses because you pre-determine the other person hold’s fragile position’s and may not be able to handle the truth, you will always stop short of expressing your true views.
I realize this can be endless…pre-conceived notions, raw bigotry, willful ignorance. However, don’t you wonder where the people who see America as the evil, greedy opressive terrorist nation that needs an attitude adjustment learned this point of view? Weren’t they here with us enjoying the same personal freedom, opportunity and rule of law? Weren’t they eating the same food, enjoying the same entertainment, have the same heroes? Doesn’t a sense of gratefulness and patriotism accompany the benefits and advantages we all share?